CHANGE sometimes gives you a choice, and sometimes it does not.
We were robbed of that choice when we have no control over it. Like natural calamities that strikes mankind, death, sickness…they just suddenly dawns on us whether we like it or not. And the thing left for us to do is to deal with it; to get pass through it. Because that is the wisest thing to do, to keep moving because it happened and we have to accept the fact that it will stay changed either way, accept it or not it still will stay changed. It is the effect of that change we have a choice of. Whether to wallow in tears or to stand up straighter.
Be glad for those changes that give you a choice from the start. And with that choice will be how it will be after the change effects. A choice between two men you will marry decides your happiness, a choice between available job offers decides your future,…a choice between every decision gives you possible outcome that depended on that choice. Like when you decided that you are much too timid and weak and you have to be like those others bursting with self-confidence. You can stay behind the shadow of your friend because you always have no voice for your own opinion within your group, you can forever be just the brain and your partner getting the acknowledgements because you dwell in your insecurities…you can stay as you are or you can learn how to change your life for the better.
Let us not blame others for how we are today. The fact that you are aware of your strengths and weaknesses gives you the chance to be a better you. You are aware that you are shy and that it puts you below the ladder of success, do not point your finger to your stepfather who repeatedly found faults in you instead ask yourself why are you still in your shell when you know that there is a way to improve. Seek change and get support to make it happen. Probably by starting with a professional help to remold you into someone you should be than who or what you are today.
To let change take effect is to take the path also to a healthy you. Emotional and mental concerns puts us at risk to sleep deprivation, incomplete food intake, thus to sickness. To be completely contented with oneself gives us inspiration to keep living and warrants happier life. Therefore...start and gain self confidence now if you think you need to.