Lying is one of those unlikable traits. We don’t like being lied to…but why is it that we ourselves do so? There are different forms actually…but I just differentiate them into two, in my own terms, okay?!. One is the positive-advantageous and the other negative-deceitful.
Positive-advantageous because we do this to please people, to save them from embarrassment or to avoid hurting (most people call them white lies). Like commenting on a “nice hair” just because it’s a new hair-do and we know it will make her day. Or when we assure someone we’re fine though the movie she suggested is totally so boring us but cannot voice it out just to avoid hurting her. Things like such is too petty to cause trouble. Unlike the Negative-deceitful that is exasperatingly affecting. Like when it misleads to something else or when it covers up what should be laid down instead.
It annoys me more to be lied to than to be told of the truth no matter how infuriating the truth is. Because dishonesty and deceit makes me feel dumb, stupid and empty-headed!
I’ve learned to see signs of it from dealing with people around me; from staffs under me, colleagues, even friends and relatives. Maybe I really should have pursued being a Psychologist, I considered taking that for College.
Men, in particular opened my eyes to this lying stuff. They’re really good at it…but then again, they’re just people who cannot control what may happen for you to find out. And constant repetition made me well-versed with detecting telltale signs!
Want some tip-offs? Sure you do!
They avoid eye contact as if detaching himself from you so it’ll be easier for them to deceive you; their hands go to parts of their bodies mostly the mouth as if trying not to spill-out the lies; you’ll notice them blinking more than the said average of 4-5 per minute which obviously indicates stress thus sometimes they even break into sweats; I also recall reading in a police story once that sudden nose and a 5-stroke neck itch is also a clue like producing a blush because it’s both caused by rush of blood that may have been set off by high pulse rate (nervous?!); most men I’ve observed sniffs, and upon further research have related it to an unconscious method of getting more oxygen of the body to the brain for an additional effort of coming up with a lie.
Think about it…and you’ll agree with me that you’ve seen these signs when you or someone is in the hot-seat! Maybe you can contribute more? Some I’ve missed?